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Edification without Humiliation

My prayer is that God give me no longer life than I shall be glad to use mine office in edification, and not in destruction. ~ Oliver Cromwell

I saw a post about a woman asking a man to take her on a date to the nail salon to get her nails and feet done. I was a bit taken aback because he put the woman on blast publicly, but I had to really think about it and disect it with the bit of information I had. Let’s edify and give someone the opportunity to see the error of their ways; not publicly humiliate them becuase they had the audacity to ask. Yes, it was in poor taste, but maybe, just maybe she is accustomed to getting anything she asks for and no one has ever told her no.

My father always told me, if you want something and don’t have the means to acquire it, you should do without. I am a firm believer in doing for yourself, but also, if you need help you should ask for it. We all have points in our lives where we struggle and need a little help from freinds, family and our significant other, but don’t go around using men and women for your own meaningless personal gain. This is a generation hellbent on securing someone else’s bag instead of their own. Not all, but some. I know many women out here doing it and getting their own and would never have to ask a man to do anything for them financially.

However, if you’re dealing with someone and either of you need help, don’t be afraid to ask. Your partner should be your help-mate. If you are out here dating and trying to see what you can get from the opposite sex, that’s not a good look at all and you should reevaluate life. We have to get out of the habit of trying to use people. It sours potential relationships and gives the other ammunition to embarass you publicly. I believe that you can edify someone without publicly humiliating them. Let’s stop this toxic behavior of begging and making one another look bad becuase they asked for something you are unwilling or unable to give. You can discuss it like rational adults and move ahead in grace. Put yourself in their position and ask yourself how you would feel if someone publicly humilated you.

Until next time…thank you for stoppng by.
I love you; I mean it,
Kimsue 💙

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