Entry 047: Reflecting On Relationships

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Photos by Collis Torrington

Maxi Dress || Peep Toe Pumps (Old/Similar Here) || Aldo Accessories (Old, Similar Here Here) Emerald Ring

So, this past weekend, I had the pleasure of shooting with a fellow blogger and fly guy George Myrie and chatted about relationships. It got me to thinking about my own relationships, or lack thereof. 

More often than not, we (women) don’t want to ask ourselves questions about our shortcomings when it comes to relationships because we’re afraid of the answer. It’s important to self-reflect and take a long hard look at what’s happening in our lives to figure out how to correct the wrongs. I’ve constantly struggled with the question. Why are my intimate relationships so unsuccessful? After years of searching and getting kicked in the face by love, I found my answer.

It’s ME. I have a fear of ending up a lonely spinster, so I give a lot of myself too soon; thinking that they will go elsewhere if not given all they desire. I want to show my mate that I’m willing to do my part to make him happy that I’m losing myself in the process. As women, we are so happy to be with someone that we miss a lot of the warning signs or in my case, I ignore them. I recently had an incident that left me wondering what I’m doing wrong. It’s not that I’m doing anything wrong; I am simply giving too much too soon. I don’t make the man of interest work tirelessly or jump through rings of fire for my love because I give of myself so freely when I’m involved. I’m a woman who is extremely passionate about love, building relationships, quality time and all those things that make a relationship successful.  I’ve always made myself accessible, but I’m learning that I need to be a little less available so I can take the time to smoke a brother over and see if he’s really here for me or my “sweetness.” 

The bottom line for me is…Slow down! If recent events have taught me nothing else, it taught me that the other party involved may not be as interested and/or invested as I am or hasn’t reached the level of maturity to deal with a woman like me. So, I take my time, allow myself to be courted and allow the relationship to progress organically and if they’re too eager to taste my sweetness; they’re probably only there for that in the first place. 

Thanks for stopping by!

Kimsue

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Entry 030: Playing In Plaid

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Plaid Duster Strawberry/ White Tank OldNavy/ Jeans OldNavy/Ankle Booties Similar Here

It was a fairly decent day in New Jersey today and I felt like wearing my favorite white jeans! Who says you can’t wear white after Labor day?! I don’t follow fashion rules! I like to do things my way and really put my sense of style out there. I decided to pull out one of my favorite pairs of ankle boots from Steve Madden from several years ago just to add a cool neutral look to my plaid duster. I cinched it with a thin croc print belt from H&M (old).I created a great fall look with pieces I already owned. You don’t have to go out and shop for new pieces all the time. Sift through your wardrobe and find little hidden gems and pair them with more recent pieces to create a trendy, yet timeless look for yourself!
Smooches💋Kimsue
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Photos by: M3 Photography

Entry 025: Jumping into 70s Swag…

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People often tell me that I look like I popped out of the 70s! I was born in the 70s so I don’t mind! I love a good jumpsuit and adding personal little touches to make the look your own is what style is all about! The jumpsuit I’m wearing is from http://www.MysEleganceBoutique.com. I added a flower to give it a little something extra. The jumpsuit is a multiway, so the top can be styled many different ways. My bag is vintage Fendi and my wedges are from Fendi spring 2008, but can be found on eBay and other sites. It was a lovely day in NYC and I’m not ready to cover up my toes :-). I went out for dinner in the city with a friend and had a lovely time! I hope you all had a wonderful Wednesday! Until next time!

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Photos by Rosemarie Moore

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Fendi Wedges

Entry 022: New York State Of Mind…

Okay, I’m a Jersey girl, but I LOVE New York City! Every chance I get; I visit the city because I love to take in the scenery, the tourists, the shopping, the food and just be out and about with the people of New York City. Lately, I haven’t had a chance to go out to the city as much as I would like to, but that doesn’t mean that I don’t still show it love. A couple of weeks ago I was checking my emails and came across an email from Kohl’s about Ellie Tahari for DesigNation! Naturally I wanted to pick up some things but I’m trying to stay away from shopping for just a little while but I couldn’t pass up this lovely little Georgette top with the view of New York City and yellow taxis across. I decided to wear it with one of my favorite Rock & Republic jeans that I’ve had for years now and some tiger print wedges I purchased about a year and a half ago from Zara. Although it’s fall it’s still very warm out so I didn’t want to cover up my toes just yet! XOXO💙IMG_0197.JPG

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Photos by M3 Photography

Entry 021: Leopard vs Cheetah The great debate

So, it’s agreed that everyone loves animal prints, right?! Well, many people do, but some have a hard time differentiating the two. Let me help you! Cheetah spots are typically much simpler than leopards spots. A true cheetah print will consist of simple black, solid spot. Leopard spots on the other hand usually are clusters of black spots with some brown regions. They tend to look more like complicated rosettes than just dots. A true fashionista knows her prints and wears them well! What’s your favorite print? Mine is Leopard, but I do love Cheetah too! IMG_0062.JPG

Entry 020: Floral + Leather + Leopard, Oh MY!

Everyone hates going to the DMV right? Not me! What I do hate is rainy days if I have to go out. I love being under the covers and relaxing, but that wasn’t going to happen since I had a few errands to run. I wanted to test out my Target for Altuzarra ankle booties. They’re super comfortable and chic. I hope your week has been going smoothly! XOXO Kimsue 💙

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Vegan Leather Jacket
Booties: Altuzarra for Target
Elizabeth And James Denim
Sheer floral sweater
Leopard Bag

Entry 019: Leopard, The Ultimate Neutral!

Blazers hold a special place in my heart…I know, I know, it’s not quite fall, but it was raining today (any excuse to put on a blazer). I didn’t feel like being exposed, so the perfect piece of clothing to cover up is a blazer! You’ve got to pay attention to detail when wearing prints such as leopard, as they can be overwhelming and can sometimes be worn inappropriately. Everyone knows I love leopard printed pieces and mixing patterns and prints. Leopard is ultimate neutral and can be paired with other prints and solids. If done right, you can really create a bold, groundbreaking look (I will be doing a post on mixing prints soon).decided to pair it with some basic blue skinny jeans and a tank top since it was a casual Friday! I hope you all had a great weekend and enjoy the week ahead! Thanks for stopping by! XOXOIMG_2416-1.JPG

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Blazer: Zara ( old )
Tank: H&M divided
Jeans: H&M
Shoes: Jessica Simpson, Acadia Pump

Entry: 018 Patent Leopard

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Today was a rather warm day here in New Jersey and I had some running around to do; so I decided to go for my favorite boyfriend jeans. I really love the comfort of these boyfriend jeans. You can wear them up or down; with shoes, booties or sneakers. I love clothing that is functional and can be worn many different ways. Today, was a casual day for me so jeans and a t-shirt with these eye catching booties were a go! Thanks for stopping by! Until next time…XOXO

T-shirt: Old Navy
Boyfriend jeans: H&M
Leopard belt: Ann Taylor Loft
Booties: Steve Madden (Sold Out)

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Clutch: Kate Spade NY

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Leopard booties: Steve Madden “Derived”

Entry 008: studded in leopard…

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20131119-001632.jpgSunday, I had a wonderful day in the city with my girls. We took in a movie and had brunch. I always love to get dressed and head into the city for a day of fun. I wore these lovely boots from London Trash with a black body con dress from Asos. It was a little rainy, but it did not put a damper on me getting dolled up…

Dress: Asos.com
Booties: London Trash “Della” www.shopflyjane.com
Accessories: Watch: Michael Kors, Bangle: Juicy Couture, Clear Clutch: Ebay, Glasses: Cazal Eyewear