Entry 047: Reflecting On Relationships

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Photos by Collis Torrington

Maxi Dress || Peep Toe Pumps (Old/Similar Here) || Aldo Accessories (Old, Similar Here Here) Emerald Ring

So, this past weekend, I had the pleasure of shooting with a fellow blogger and fly guy George Myrie and chatted about relationships. It got me to thinking about my own relationships, or lack thereof. 

More often than not, we (women) don’t want to ask ourselves questions about our shortcomings when it comes to relationships because we’re afraid of the answer. It’s important to self-reflect and take a long hard look at what’s happening in our lives to figure out how to correct the wrongs. I’ve constantly struggled with the question. Why are my intimate relationships so unsuccessful? After years of searching and getting kicked in the face by love, I found my answer.

It’s ME. I have a fear of ending up a lonely spinster, so I give a lot of myself too soon; thinking that they will go elsewhere if not given all they desire. I want to show my mate that I’m willing to do my part to make him happy that I’m losing myself in the process. As women, we are so happy to be with someone that we miss a lot of the warning signs or in my case, I ignore them. I recently had an incident that left me wondering what I’m doing wrong. It’s not that I’m doing anything wrong; I am simply giving too much too soon. I don’t make the man of interest work tirelessly or jump through rings of fire for my love because I give of myself so freely when I’m involved. I’m a woman who is extremely passionate about love, building relationships, quality time and all those things that make a relationship successful.  I’ve always made myself accessible, but I’m learning that I need to be a little less available so I can take the time to smoke a brother over and see if he’s really here for me or my “sweetness.” 

The bottom line for me is…Slow down! If recent events have taught me nothing else, it taught me that the other party involved may not be as interested and/or invested as I am or hasn’t reached the level of maturity to deal with a woman like me. So, I take my time, allow myself to be courted and allow the relationship to progress organically and if they’re too eager to taste my sweetness; they’re probably only there for that in the first place. 

Thanks for stopping by!

Kimsue

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Entry 037: Spring Into Spring 2015

Looking to spruce up your spring wardrobe? With tomorrow marking the first official day of spring (although it will snow) there are only a few things that you need to add to your closet to make this spring one to remember!shoecult 1. Stacked heels – are back in a big way! I was born in the 70s and I am partial to that era in fashion. Stacked heels, unlike stiletto’s are very easy to walk in and give you more balance. Pair them with wide legged jeans for a cool 70s feel.

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2. Menswear shoes – As much as I LOVE heels, flats are a must and are very popular right now. you can do so much with flats. you can dress them up or down; with jeans, skirts and dresses!

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3. Bucket Bags! – They’re fashionable and functional. If you’re like me, you carry a lot in your purse unless you’re wearing a clutch. I have to carry medication and other necessities, so the bigger the bag, the better.

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4. Printed clutches – The best way to print mix is to add a printed clutch and you are instantly in style!

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5. Pearl Chokers – Pearls are coming back in a big way. They aren’t just for breakfast at Tiffany’s. You can add pearls to just about any outfit to make a classy statement. To make it a little edgy, make it a choker with pearls! You’re sure to turn a few heads.

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6. Big Hats – I for one, am not a fan of hats. I love them, but I don’t wear them much. This is something that I would like to add to my fashion repertoire

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More looks from me coming soon, so STAY TUNED!

Thanks for stopping by!

XOXO Kimsue

Entry 035: Basquiat x Black x White

Sweatshirt: Forever21 Jeans: (old) Nude Pumps: Jessica Simpson

If you live on the east coast, you know the winter we’ve been having, so it’s no surprise that today I decided to step out and and enjoy this lovely 60° weather! I’ve been sort of trapped in the house due to horrible weather and feeling not so great, but today, I figured I’d get out for a little sun! I wanted to keep my look simple since I had some running around to do. I opted for some two-toned skinny jeans, a DIY off the shoulder sweatshirt and my nude pumps! I’m so excited that spring is near and I can’t wait to share my upcoming looks with you!

I hope you all enjoyed your day, yesterday!

XOXO Kimsue