Entry 047: Reflecting On Relationships

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Photos by Collis Torrington

Maxi Dress || Peep Toe Pumps (Old/Similar Here) || Aldo Accessories (Old, Similar Here Here) Emerald Ring

So, this past weekend, I had the pleasure of shooting with a fellow blogger and fly guy George Myrie and chatted about relationships. It got me to thinking about my own relationships, or lack thereof. 

More often than not, we (women) don’t want to ask ourselves questions about our shortcomings when it comes to relationships because we’re afraid of the answer. It’s important to self-reflect and take a long hard look at what’s happening in our lives to figure out how to correct the wrongs. I’ve constantly struggled with the question. Why are my intimate relationships so unsuccessful? After years of searching and getting kicked in the face by love, I found my answer.

It’s ME. I have a fear of ending up a lonely spinster, so I give a lot of myself too soon; thinking that they will go elsewhere if not given all they desire. I want to show my mate that I’m willing to do my part to make him happy that I’m losing myself in the process. As women, we are so happy to be with someone that we miss a lot of the warning signs or in my case, I ignore them. I recently had an incident that left me wondering what I’m doing wrong. It’s not that I’m doing anything wrong; I am simply giving too much too soon. I don’t make the man of interest work tirelessly or jump through rings of fire for my love because I give of myself so freely when I’m involved. I’m a woman who is extremely passionate about love, building relationships, quality time and all those things that make a relationship successful.  I’ve always made myself accessible, but I’m learning that I need to be a little less available so I can take the time to smoke a brother over and see if he’s really here for me or my “sweetness.” 

The bottom line for me is…Slow down! If recent events have taught me nothing else, it taught me that the other party involved may not be as interested and/or invested as I am or hasn’t reached the level of maturity to deal with a woman like me. So, I take my time, allow myself to be courted and allow the relationship to progress organically and if they’re too eager to taste my sweetness; they’re probably only there for that in the first place. 

Thanks for stopping by!

Kimsue

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Entry 039: A Printed Spring 

  Gingham Duster|| Yellow Cropped Jeans (old) Similar Here || Floral Peep Toe Pumps (old) Similar Here

In an effort to regrow my hair, I decided to get what is called a quick weave, also known as a stocking cap weave. It’s a chance for me to leave my hair alone and let the grow out process continue without interruption. This is my first time getting this done and I think it looks pretty good. I haven’t seen myself with hair since October, 2013 so it’s a little weird. I love being versatile with my looks and I plan to get other styles in the future. 

Now, let’s talk about my attire! I have an abundance of clothing, but lately, I haven’t been getting dressed a lot because I’m not working at a typical 9-5… Most of my things are collecting dust, but I am hoping that will soon change since the season is changing. Heading out to run errands and things, I opted for something chic, but comfortable…at least for me. I love pairing the old with the new! There are many things you can do with what’s already in your closet, don’t be afraid to repeat pieces…you bought them, wear them! 
Thanks for stopping by! 
XO Kimsue

       

Entry 025: Jumping into 70s Swag…

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People often tell me that I look like I popped out of the 70s! I was born in the 70s so I don’t mind! I love a good jumpsuit and adding personal little touches to make the look your own is what style is all about! The jumpsuit I’m wearing is from http://www.MysEleganceBoutique.com. I added a flower to give it a little something extra. The jumpsuit is a multiway, so the top can be styled many different ways. My bag is vintage Fendi and my wedges are from Fendi spring 2008, but can be found on eBay and other sites. It was a lovely day in NYC and I’m not ready to cover up my toes :-). I went out for dinner in the city with a friend and had a lovely time! I hope you all had a wonderful Wednesday! Until next time!

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Photos by Rosemarie Moore

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