Sometimes, our soulmate is someone completely different from our type ~ Kimsue
We all have a type! For many of us there is a certain physical aesthetic that we look for in the opposite sex. For me, I love a chocolate man with a beard, muscles and a lean athletic body. More often than not, that aesthetic is attached to a THOT. At least in my experience. For those that don’t know the meaning; a thot (that ho over there) it’s synonymous with slut or whore. I don’t know why I am attracted to this type of man, but it is something that I have been questioning for quite some time. People tell me all the time I should go for the opposite of what I like. Maybe I should explore that option. I was having a conversation with my dear friend Mocha the other day and she said “you are beautiful, you are stylish and you look for someone that matches your fly on the exterior. Maybe you should look for the opposite of what you’re used to.” Not that I should be looking for a bum or a person who is not aesthetically pleasing to me, but someone who doesn’t fit that particular profile. I shouldn’t go for the guy with more drip than morals and treats women like sex objects, is basically what she meant. I definitely don’t want a man that’s got multiple women and treating me like I’m nothing more than a piece of pussy or as my father used to say, a pussy cushion. Or the guy that only wants me behind closed doors and never wants to actually date me. I’m very specific about what I want in a man, but I keep accepting these crumbs. Oftentimes, our type is not who God has designed for us. We have to look a bit deeper. What we attract is a manifestation of what we believe we deserve. At least, that’s what I believe. Our soulmate may be someone who’s the complete opposite of what we’re normally attracted to. I know it’s not in my best interest to continue giving energy and attention to these types of men. In the last five years, I’ve dated quite a bit and I have to say each guy has been a certified THOT. I take full responsibility for the energy that I attract and what I entertain. I am in no way shape or form blaming the men for their behavior towards me. It’s what I’ve accepted. Their poor treatment of women is something they need to deal with on their own. I need to be more cognizant of what I give my attention to in the future. So, with that being said, I am working on attracting and manifesting what I know I deserve in a man. Right now, I am off the market and not really dating anyone special, but that does not mean that I’m not open to dating and open to love. I am immersing myself in building my brand, getting my T-shirt line launched and doing things that really benefit myself and my family. I can’t be out here entertaining foolishness and allowing another persons bad energy to infiltrate and contaminate mine.
My advice to women and men, is to evaluate your interactions with the people you are dating and decide if it’s worth your time and energy. If the answer is no, you need to move along.
As always, thank you for taking a moment to explore my world and read my blog.
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